Transitions affect people in so many different ways.  Transitions can be as simple as your children having new students in their classrooms. Regardless of the size of the transition, individuals and those around them are often affected differently. Once in a routine, children typically respond more positively to transitions.  While they aren’t easy for anyone, when a child knows what to expect next, he or she can anticipate the transition and adjust accordingly.

What happens however when there is a disruption in routine?? The Jewish high holidays create opportunities to test our resilience when it comes to transitions. As we are in the midst of the Jewish Holidays, we are immersed in prayer, family togetherness and a chance to start a new year.  While there is so much joy and reflection during high holy days, the disruption to our regular schedule can also prove to be challenging for our children.  Schedules are different, there are inconsistent weeks of school, and typical transitions are missing. As we embrace the holidays, it is also important for adults to approach this time with empathy for our children.  Here are a few tips for helping your child through these types of transitions.

1)Ask questions: Find out how your child is feeling with all of the transitions—in school for two days and out of school for two days and then back at school for a day. As adults we are filling our calendars with holiday plans, work schedule changes, and figuring out who will pick up the children on early dismissals. Take time to ask your children how they are doing with the change.  Sometimes something as simple as a checkin can be so helpful.

2)Plan Ahead: Children thrive on routine. Talk with your child about the changes and plan ahead.  Create a schedule, fill in a calendar.  Helping your children to plan will help you to plan…creating less stress for all.

3)Patience Patience Patience: This is the most important thing for us to remember. Be patient with yourself and with your children.  The disruption to the routine is hard for everyone. It can manifest itself through tears, anger, acting out, or confusion.  Remember to be empathetic and patient.  Try to embrace the transitions and enjoy the extra time with family. Remind yourself (and your children) that the regular routine will return soon enough.

Wishing you and your family a happy healthy new year.